Corona Virus Quarantine Day #159: Celebrating Awesome: August 27, 2020:
It’s been a long week and it isn’t even Friday yet. I learned a thing or two this week and here is what I know…
Kids want and crave school.
After 5 months of not having it…school makes kids really tired.
Everyone is a little anxious. Parents, administrators, teachers and even the kids themselves, even though some of them can’t identify what they are feeling.
All of us know that we’ve been in our houses not attending school or large gatherings for a reason and suddenly we are doing all that again with school being in session…just this time we have to wear masks. That’s not helping the anxiety these kids are feeling.
It’s a lot to take in.
I learned teaching kids in a class and also have kids at home on a computer is a challenge I never thought I’d face in my teaching career. It’s not easy, but with the help of my colleagues and my school, it’s totally doable.
I know I work with some really awesome people. This week I had a colleague in a room full of people look across the room and say I intimidated him. At first I thought I should be offended. However, he then followed that statement by saying that my goodness is what intimidates him and that he sees GOD in me everyday. This whole conversation was predicated on the idea that as teachers we have “aha” moments or bullseye moments when we see the arrow crush into that bullseye with our students and that it’s so powerful and such a rush. The goal for all of us teachers is to have those moments more often than not. He said that when he hears me speak or when I share my heart he has one of those moments each time. What?! Wow. It was pretty darn awesome (also I was crying).
I cannot tell you how badly I needed to hear something like that on that particular day. I saw GOD in him in that moment as well because he had the courage to tell someone he doesn’t see very often, or even really communicate with on a regular basis that he admired them in a room full of people.
I made sure to tell him how much what he said meant to me and that I really appreciated him doing something uncomfortable to share a piece of his heart. I needed to hear this. I needed to feel seen. It was so very awesome and it will stick with me forever.
However, this all got me thinking…I am an educator of young people. Young people have had a rough 6 months. Young people are insecure. I have always been a tell people how you feel kind of person. I have always been the type of person who writes the feel good note. However, I know that now, more than ever before, I need to build these kids up. They need to be told they are smart, funny, beautiful, important, loved, kind…seen.
Don’t we all wander through the day sometimes wondering who really sees us? I think we are all guilty of this at times. I know I am. We all want to be seen, heard and praised for the things that make us who we are. As a coach this is something we are constantly thinking about. The goal is to always say more positive to a player than critique. We are dealing with kids. Everything we say or do as coaches is well thought out and everything we say can leave a mark. I want that mark to be a positive one.
Yet, in the world we live in, it’s not the norm to say these things, or to do these things; to get outside our comfort zone to tell people that they are special, seen, loved. I want so badly for that to change (I always have). So I will work extra hard this year and I hope every year that follows to give these kids who will enter our school stressed, uncertain and maybe a little insecure, all the goodness I can muster. I will let them know what makes them awesome as much as humanely possible and I will encourage them to do the same for each other.
So join me in spreading the goodness and spreading the awesome. Tell a stranger they look nice or they have pretty eyes. Call a friend and tell them you appreciate them. Tell someone you work with they are doing a good job. Tell your kids what specifically you love about them. Everyone needs to hear goodness. Everyone needs to be reminded that they are seen. Everyone needs to know their own awesome. We can help make that possible.